“Don’t ignore red flags and issues before getting married. Work through them now so you can avoid the big mess later on.”
You are planning to get married or thinking about proposing or accepting proposal but there is confusion, fighting, or “issues” within your relationship. Getting married is a very long term decision and can also involve children. Spending your life with your partner can be an amazing and fulfilling experience for many couples , but for many married couples it can be filled with years of mentally draining issues, self esteem blows , and negative patterns that were not looked at or ignored prior to marriage.
By looking closely together and bringing to light aspects of the relationship that are causing strife, hurt , anger, defensiveness, fear, or anxiety for one or both partners a new clarity can be understood. When it becomes clear to both partners exactly where the source of each person’s doubt, irritation, fear and pain comes from …and why certain behaviors are repeating themselves, a new intimate understanding of each other can become the beginning of a new transformation for the relationship.
No two people are the same, so with a new understanding and clarity couples can move forward loving their partner differently…creating new loving patterns instead of destructive ones. It is not wise to go into a marriage with unresolved issues or doubt. Working through these issues together BEFORE you wed will make for a strong marriage and a new way of communicating that will last through your marriage. If some of your own or your partner’s behaviors have you worried about walking down the aisle I can help you.
COMMON ISSUES IN MY PRACTICE
General compatibility issues.
Communication issues or lack of productive communication.
Emotional game playing.
Passive aggressive behavior.
Extended family stressors /issues and solutions.
Not feeling “heard.”
Wedding Planning disagreements/fighting.
Perceived or real inequality issues.
Lack of romance or creativity.
Differing libidos / lack of sex.
Financial issues and fears.
Power and control issues.
Hurtful flirting ( and online flirting.)
Not spending enough quality time together.
Not feeling truly loved by your partner.
Differing opinions on “everything.”
Differing feelings about having children.
*Straight or gay relationships are a part of my practice.