The longer we are in a relationship the more we expose our true selves, the self we are at THIS moment in time. Our true selves are multifaceted and have many layers , some which bring out the best and most loving parts in us and our partner, and some that bring out the negative and hurtful parts in us and our partner. Why I say “and in your partner” is because our own negative actions or comments that are usually subconsciously based in fear can cause a subconscious or conscious fear/anger based reaction in our partner.
If you aren’t listening to your partner with curiosity…. What are you listening with? ”
Without judging either partner for the breakdown of a loving relationship… together we get off the hamster wheel by looking at what hurtful and irritating patterns are occurring between partners, and then we expose the source of the pain in each partner. When each partner can expose the source of their pain in a very safe guided environment so much is learned about your loved one and a new bonding can take place.
When unconscious habits are brought to consciousness and looked at, it is then that evolving can take place.”
Each partner will take a very hard look at what they themselves bring to the relationship that is loving and also what is not loving. When one can identify their own negative patterns then the sources of the breakdown of the relationship have an opportunity to mend, change and evolve . My goal for the couple is to bring about a new awareness about themselves through guided SELF -realization to create deep intimate bonding and deep love. No two people are the same, so with a new understanding and clarity couples can move forward loving their partner differently…creating new loving patterns instead of destructive ones.
Common Relationship Issues
General compatibility issues.
Communication issues or lack of productive communication.
Emotional game playing.
Passive Aggressive behavior.
Extended family stressors /issues and solutions.
Not feeling “heard.”
New Parents – Honoring each other and everyone’s new roles.
New Mom…How to include dad and why it is so important.
New Dad…Honoring your wife’s instincts.
Honoring your partners SIGNIFICANCE
Projecting personal issues onto your partner.
Bad moods and negativity…How it negatively effects everyone.
Perceived or real inequality issues.
Lack of romance or creativity.
Differing libidos / lack of sex.
Financial issues and fears.
Cheating/affairs or perceived cheating.
Hurtful flirting (and online flirting).
Facebook/Computer over quality time.
Not spending enough quality time together.
Not feeling truly LOVED by your partner.
Differing opinions on “everything”
*Straight or gay relationships are a part of my practice.